I recently re-watched the movie – Jab We Met. I enjoy watching this movie and specially the characters. One a bubbly, lovely and risk (risk without any calculation) taking girl who lives in present. And the boy who learns a lot from her.
This girl is (I am not talking about Kareena Kapoor, I am talking about the character played by her) is like a child, who does not know, does not want to think and does not care for tomorrow. She “lives in the present” as the Art of Living teaches. She believes in love and lives life for the love. Love is very close to a path of spirituality in Indian philosophy – Bhakti (Devotion). When she says – “…pyar me kuch sahi galat nahi hota” (there is nothing right or wrong in love), it reminds me of the divine love people have talked about in Bhakti marg (the path of devotion). 
As the song of this movie says – “Ye ishq haye baithe bhithai jannat dikhaye…” (when in love a person is in heaven without any desire, longing or work). I believe heaven is here and now. The way we live we define “what is heaven?”
On the other hand, we have a boy whose girlfriend is marrying someone else. I define love in different ways – the love of Bhakti gives freedom to the loved one, whereas the love we show, talk and depict (in movies and largely assume in our life) is largely a jail or for that matter only lust. The reason for calling it jail is – when a person becomes possessive for the loved one, the person may not like few things about the other (for example talking to someone – specially the opposite sex). Or at times asking the loved one not to do A or B or C, this condition is not freedom, perhaps it is not love at all – it is a jail, am I right?.
The best part is learning of the boy. He learns and starts loving his work too. This is the other premise in which I strongly believe. One should do what he/she enjoys doing, then work does not stay a burden. Lastly, the song which I like the most is – ‘…Na hai ye pana, no khona hi hai…’ (it is neither owning nor losing). This song largely states that love is not possession, love is being in a state of mind where you are free, happy and do things which you feel are right (of course not harming anyone).
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Rummuser · October 22, 2011 at 2:34 pm
After our telephone chat, I got the right idea to comment on this post! Love is the most loosely used word to describe many emotions. For instance, just this morning, a friend of mine dropped in and asked me to arrange for some idlies and sambar because he just loved them! The love in bhakti is a different ball game altogether and to reach that stage of surrender is for a select few. Keep trying nevertheless. The love between a husband and a wife is totally different and is yet to be correctly defined. In my own experience of being married for forty years plus to one woman after having known her as a friend for eight years before marriage, it was an indescribable emotion. Having loved whatever I did for a living, I also always maintain that I never worked in my life!
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