Nope, this post is not about how to make, it is inspired by a grandma making Lady’s Finger.

When I was in schools, my brother once told me for the subject of history that I did not like – “You have to study it irrespective of your choice. Our system is such that to graduate to the next grade you have to pass each subject, even if you don’t like or enjoy one subject. So better be sincere for the subject, forget scoring well in that at least get passing grades.” After that he added – “Do not think too much about liking or disliking the subject just give it some time to sink in. Just study it do not be feverish about it.”

This was a good start for some of the things I did not like. It does not mean I enjoyed taking every subject sincerely. I never enjoyed History as a subject, until I had to pass the subject upto grade 10 (include English language upto 12th). Reading anything on history later on was interesting though. There was no pressure to “passing” the subject anymore, no need to remember anything. This point made me somewhat more sincere to “what I did” and somewhat in learning rather than the grades. Well, it still does not mean that I became a great student – I was just an above average student. After all these exercises, I learnt one thing – put some efforts, dedicate time and energy to what one is doing. Sincerity and dedication were two takeaway words from there. The lesson is on and off with me.

My wife is always interested in cooking new stuff. She keeps on learning new dishes and experiment with those. Recently, she was watching ‘Lady’s Finger Recipe’. Out of curious I too started watching the video with her. To my utter surprise, the cook was not working in a high profile kitchen. It was some open space, not on a good quality burner, but on a chulha, an open air temporarily made fireplace. The first glance made me even more curious. I started watching the recipe. What made me stuck to the video was the dedication of the cook.

I and my wife spoke to each other – wow! She is so content, no pressure of running to office after cooking food and packing it in tiffins. No pressure of cooking, dinner, washing utensils and sleeping to get ready for the next day either. She looks so peaceful making this. This kind of devotedness one needs to be happy in life, isnt it? No worries of getting passing grades and dislike for doing what you are doing.

This kind of work ethics remind me of meditation. Work does not remain work, it becomes a prayer.

Isn’t there a lot of learn from grandma in this small 8 min video?

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KRD Pravin

Here I am supposed to write about myself. Professionally, I am quite serious and a workaholic; personally I am an individual who enjoys what he does and takes life as it comes. I am passionate about my work and actions and empathetically careful, attached and committed to them. All this makes me a fierce competitive professional and yet a compassionate soul, the Yin and the Yang together. Balancing is the art to be practiced using the middle path. From -


rummuser · December 12, 2016 at 3:59 pm

What eight minute video?

Raj Krishnaswamy · December 14, 2016 at 6:47 am

Absolutely fabulous!! Believe it or not, just had bindi masala with rice for dinner and watching the video minutes later is indeed coincidental… impressed with cutting onions without tearing up .. Agreed work can become a prayer, prayer itself can become a passion, walking can become a pradakshinam and every word a mantra ! Nice article..

    KRD Pravin · December 21, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    Yes sir that was the feeling that the grandma was doing everything so effortlessly and with full involvement that it looked like she was in meditation

rummuser · December 15, 2016 at 6:09 pm

I would give an arm and a leg to get some bhindi cooked in a clay pan like this one! The last time I had it was forty years ago!

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